I have spent months, even years, improving the important relationships in my life. I chose to focus on these and make them a priority before making lots of money and especially before creating any physical distance, like moving to another geographic location.

Old wounds can be healed, dyfunctional families become effective and proactive, and business relationships begin to flourish when we focus on healing our relationships. Somehow, improving the quality of our inter-personal relationships affects all other areas of our lives.  We become more harmonic beings and attract more good things and people on the same wavelength to us.

There were two things that played and still play an important role in keeping these relationships alive and dynamic, comfortable and even joyful.

The first thing is releasing my need to control the other person and the outcome of things.  The knowledge that the only reaction I can control is my own has been extremely helpful.  And learning to forgive myself and others in the process has also been a key factor. Sometime it has taken months or even years to let things go and look forward.  Sometimes it only takes a moment.  One thing I have learned through all this is that the people who are most successful in all areas of their lives have mastered the ability to forgive and release, even if they call it something else.  Learning to forgive and release will allow you to move on to the next thing and will allow your relationships to become a source of energy and support and even become synergistic.

The second thing is learning to take time to

a) listen

b) learn to wait for things to happen of their own accord. 

We have forgotten how to wait, but it is our greatest treasure to be able to wait for the right moment.  This is often called "good timing".  The whole of existence waits for the right moment. And there is great beauty in the wait; for the new to come when the old has gone. But we often want everything in a hurry.  This is our loss.

One of my favorite poets wrote: "Patience With the Small Details Makes Perfect a Large Work, Like the Universe". The first blogpost I ever wrote had that title: http://e-bizsecretsexposed.com/blog/blog/patience-with-small-details-makes-perfect-a-large-work/

Most relationships begin to fall apart through disagreements, and disagreements are not settled by argumentation and logic. They are resolved — or, more accurately, dissolved — through patience. Without patience you start retaliating, and the other person gets more upset and retaliates too. Instead of retaliating with a curt reply, slow down and refrain from answering immediately. As soon as you can manage it, try a smile and a sympathetic word. Sometimes what works best is simply let it go and start a fresh, not even mentioning the previous situation, depending on the type of person the other person involved might be. Sometimes it's just better to refrain from even a sympathetic word, which can be construed as condescending.

Companionship in life is one of the secrets to abundance, so I cannot stress strongly enough how important it is to heal bonds that have weakened and to bring freshness back to relationships that have grown stale.

What’s more, the less you try to force things, the faster they seem to happen. The more you try to force things, the longer you usually wait for results.  I have studied several methods of releasing ("The Sedona Method" and various hypnosis methods and many years of study and meditation), and this is one of the main premises that are stressed.

You might want to ask yourself the following questions, and trust your first responses:

What am I pushing to happen right now?

With whom do I tend to be most impatient?

In recognizing my impatience, can I become more patient with this individual?

In what other areas of my life will increased patience serve me?

What action is required in my life at this time?