Learning this is way hard.

To learn to let other people be right.

Or wrong.

Or whatever.

Forcing my kids to do things

that they don't really want to.

I know what's best

But they don't.

Trying to go against something,

anything actually makes you move into something that belongs to it.

It looks opposite, but it's not.

Always efforting to change the world or yourself,

it's hard to see your own center.

When I try to understand, things elude me.

When I try to release, I grasp even harder.

It's like a pendulum,

moving back and forth with unheard of force,

a giant wave hitting me hard over my head when I've finally relaxed.

The measure of the swing to the left

equals the measure of the swing to the right.

Everything has a rhythm;

the reason why opposites meet.

There is action and reaction.

Everything flowing in and out,

they rise and they fall.

So, I guess I have to stop creating opposite poles,

because all opposites are related.

Both poles are essentially the same.

Chasing after stuff, after something, after someone.

It's the chasing that's the problem here.

You're never satisfied,

even once you've attained what you were chasing after.

We love the peaks and hate the valleys,

but the presence of one always includes the presence of the other.

So how do I deal with this?

One technique is to become an observer.

A good vision is to see whatever is happening like a show or a movie.

You're watching the drama, but you're not in it.

"All the world is a stage."

Another technique is to create the feeling of two extremes within you.

With practice, you'll become a master at it.

But it does take practice, and I am no master, yet.

Another technique I've learned to some extent

is to stop judging everything and everyone.

The idea is that If you lighten up on others,

you'll lighten up on yourself, too.

Sounds good to me.

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